"ketika kita menaruh HARAPAN seutuhnya kepada Tuhan, maka Ia akan membuat HARAPAN itu menjadi NYATA"

"ketika kita meletakkan HATI untuk PERCAYA, maka Ia akan membuat semuanya itu MUDAH"

"ketika kita meletakkan hidup untuk BERGANTUNG seutuhnya kepada Dia, maka kita akan melihat KARYA dan KUASA-Nya hadir dalam hidup kita"

"ketika kita berjalan dalam RENCANA Tuhan semuanya  akan indah pada waktunya"

tidak ada yang perlu disesali di masa lau mu, karena itu adalah proses kehidupan,
tidak perlu kamu menjadi kuat dalam menjalani masalah seberat apapun, tapi kamu hanya butuh keyakikan (iman) bahwa kamu bisa melewati ini dengan kekuatan Tuhan, karna tanpa Dia kamu bukan apa apa. . . God bless you . . Tuhan Yesus memberkati :)

1. Cut down on shampoo
For instance, if your hair is dry, co-wash your hair. Co-wash means wash your hair with conditioner not shampoo. Since the 40s shampoo was made with the same drying product as laundry detergent. If you must wash your hair, dilute you shampoo with 75% water and 25% shampoo. If you have product build up, use a mud rinse in your hair instead of drying soap
2. Learn the science
Black hair has tiny nicks in the cuticle layer which makes it harder for natural scalp sebum to distribute to the ends of your hair.These nicks also cause breakage so handle your hair with care and keep it moisturized. A huge misconception is that black hair is coarse, coarse means the "strand size" not the texture. Black hair is rarely coarse, black strands' are finer than any other group - which is why is can not take heavy handling. Hold your hair up to the light. Is it thin? Can you see through it? If yes - you have fine hair. Asian hair is the coarsest, strongest hair, which can take a lot of handling.
3. Use organic products
Choose products with a lot of organic ingredients and try to avoid products with mineral oils and petro oil. Petro oil will dry your hair out and stop moisture from penetrating the shaft. Natural oils like almond, coconut oil and jojoba oils are much better.

• Look for the term organic not natural. The term “organic” is strictly defined in the US by uniform, federal regulations. “Organic” means the food or fiber bearing the label was made with a set of farming and production practices defined and regulated, in great detail, by the USDA.That means it had no toxic chemicals, antibiotics and pesticides that are harmful to humans and animals.
• The term "natural" is double talk and can have any given meaning for corporations. An orange soda can be natural because it has orange flavoring that once shared a compound of a fruit. High fructose corn syrup is considered "natural" just like "Petro Oil."

4. Select your products carefully
If you have more money to spend, you could either try the Ultra Black Hair, Crème of Nature line, or you can also use a small amount of grape seed, olive oil, or jojoba oil straight from the bottle. Aveda makes a really good leave-in conditioner. Stay away from money thirsty products and try making your own. Aloe Vera is the same PH of your hair which is 4 and will close your cuticles and make your hair shiny and smoother than ever before.
5. Create a regimen
Decide how often you are going to "shampoo" and deep condition your hair. Co-washing should be your method. You will want to and condition every 3 to 5 days and seal the moisture in with a light oil. Deep condition every week if you have time, and no less than twice a month.

• The ends of your hair are the oldest, instead of the old myth of "greasing your scalp" , oil your ends to stop it from breaking from rubbing against your clothes.

 6. Never use "grease" in your hair
Most black hair needs extra moisture, but stay away from products with petroleum. Petroleum makes hair stiff, dry and greasy. Instead of grease, try natural oils (coconut, jojoba, olive, or castor) or natural shampoos and conditioners which are great for your hair because they don't have all those sulfates, sodium’s, and preservatives in them. They also give your hair a nice shine to it. Grape seed oil is very light and can withstand high temperatures without burning which will help control heat damage if you use heat styling products on your locks.  
7. Moisturize your ends
Be sure to keep them moisturized so you don't end up with split end. Seal your ends with either coconut oil or castor oil.
8.  Avoid heat on your hair
If you use heat styling products on your hair, try and cut it down to 2-3 times a month if you can, and make sure you use a heat protection shampoo and/or moisturizer, or a good serum/spray on your hair before flat ironing or curling. Hold the barrel cover slightly open so the hair simply passes over the barrel without being tugged and pulled by the barrel cover when you use the curling iron. If you absolutely must use oil when you use your curling iron, dab on a very, very, tiny amount of Optimum Oil Therapy 3-in-1 Cremé or different product. It won't leave your hair oily.
9. Make sure you sleep on a satin pillowcase or tie your hair up in a silk scarf so your hair can stay healthy and won't break or tear
Silk or satin pillowcases , bonnets and scarves will also help prevent acne because there is not as much bacteria on them every night.
10. Try a protein treatment
Once a month, use an Aphogee treatment or use egg in your hair before washing it all out. Protein will make your hair less prone to breakage and over-moisturizing. Your hair will be a lot shinier too. Be careful not to over use protein in your hair otherwise it will start to snap off.
11. Comb carefully
Use a wide tooth comb to comb your hair, stop buying bristle brushes or thin combs which will get caught in your hair and snap it off. Go for low maintenance. People of colour should never comb their hair everyday, your hair does not need to be combed everyday, just detangle with your fingers. Excessive combing will break your hair off. Make sure your hair is slightly damp before you tangle.
12. Throw away that myth that black hair cannot grow
The reason why black hair does not appear to grow is because the ends are breaking off from too much handling. If your hair didn't grow, you wouldn't need to head to the hair dresser every 4-6 weeks! There are plenty of forums and blogs where black women and girls have beautiful hair. Your hair will be healthier if you follow these rules and you will notice a difference in the strength and length.

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